Exploring Kinks Together: How Couples Mix Restraint and Shared Pleasure

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Having sex with the same partner again and again and again is exciting. You're both learning about each other's likes and dislikes. Every time you have sex, you're improving at pleasuring your partner. You're learning something new about their body.

The good thing about consistent sex with one person is that you're able to try out new things in a safe environment. Today, we're going to explore how couples could introduce restraint and shared pleasure into the bedroom.

Restraint

When people talk about restraint in the bedroom. we typically picture the 50 Shades of Grey style of BDSM. That movie totally exaggerates everything about the BDSM lifestyle. In reality, it's a lot more lighthearted. You're free to laugh, tease, and play with more freedom.

While many couples do invest in expensive straps or complex cages, you could also be more lowkey about how you go about restraint. Sometimes, just keeping your hands off of yourself is enough to get you going.

Restraint is about both the physical and emotional aspects of sex. You're physically being restrained in a way that you usually aren't, but you're also giving up the control that you typically have. And that's the key word here: control.

Chastity cages and chastity belts are a great way to introduce some sort of restraint and control into the sexual dynamic. They work by restricting the male's ability to get an erection. Their partner will typically be the one to hold a key, or some other contraption, that opens the cage/belt.

I would totally recommend chastity cages/belts to most couples. It really subverts the idea of putting a man in charge of the sexual dynamic by giving the woman power over when he can even experience a physical relief to his sexual desires.

Most cages look somewhat like this. It's a very simple design that still allows for comfort during everyday wear.

Some tips for using a chastity cage/belt:

• Pick one that's comfortable for your size. Take your time to really measure yourself and choose the coziest fit.

• Start slow. It's exciting to wear a cage for hours and hours on end, but start off with just a few minutes. Build up to longer times.

• Have complete trust in your partner. The hottest part about a cage/belt is the control that you're giving your partner. You wanna make sure that you completely trust them. I'd even suggest coming up with a safe word and keeping an emergency key somewhere close by (like in your wallet or car).

Shared Pleasure

Couples can also look into shared pleasure products. These are toys that give BOTH partners pleasure at the same time. Double dildos are great in that regard and work for pretty much anybody of any sexuality.

Just imagine hearing your partner's moans while you're also experiencing tons of pleasure. It's so hot to be able to just enjoy each other without having to worry too much about what you're doing to give them pleasure. It's a lot more relaxing.

Try It Out...????

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