Is It Normal to Ask My OBGYN About Sex and Intimacy?

Asking My OBGYN About Sex and Intimacy

Sex and intimacy is such an integral part of the health industry. Your OBGYN is actually the perfect person to talk to regarding your sex life. According to the National Institutes of Health there is a large percentage of the female population that get uncomfortable or feel embarrassed when confronted with the option to talk about intimate experience with a physician, especially if it’s a male gynecologist.

Despite the fact that approximately 78% of women reported discussing their sexual pain with healthcare providers, significant obstacles remained that prevented open communication about these issues says survey results from Witzeman, et al..

So while it is totally encouraged to talk about sex and intimacy with your OBGYN, because they will have the best information and resources to answer your questions. It is also perfectly normal to feel uncomfortable.

As a woman, I can attest that I have had male OBGYN’s work on me. I have questions in my head like “I don’t know you that well why am I talking about my sex life to you?” “Is it weird if I just randomly bring up sex while they’re looking at my vagina?”

In the bedroom I feel powerful and confident, but when it comes to being an advocate for myself there is definitely a disconnect between what I need and want versus what I can verbalize. If other women share my sentiment, I wonder what it will take for the healthcare system to fully adapt to the needs of the female population.

What Your Conversation With Your OBGYN Can Look Like

Based on these shortcomings, here are some conversation topics you should definitely consider discussing with your OBGYN, and how to address them without shame. Healthcare providers regularly field common questions from patients, including:

Does this look normal? I'm 99% sure your coochie looks normal! The better question is: does it feel normal? A healthy coochie is a happy one.

Am I masturbating too much? The simple answer is no. According to Healthline, masturbating is perfectly healthy, and how often you feel the urge depends entirely on the person. So if you're worried you're overdoing it, you're probably just fine.

Is it normal to pee a little bit when I exercise? After giving birth, you'll probably find yourself peeing from something as simple as standing up too quickly. According to the National Association for Continence, Stress Urinary Incontinence (SUI) is the condition responsible for bladder leakage that happens when you work out. And while it's common, this is definitely something you should talk to your doctor about, there are treatments that can help!

Are genital piercings dangerous? Vaginal piercings carry risks including infection, keloids, bleeding, pain, and allergic reactions, among other possibilities. It's a big decision, so consult your doctor before making such a significant body modification.

Some additional topics you may want to discuss with your OBGYN may include your sexual history, painful or irregular periods, low sex drive, and just about anything else related to your coochie, uterus, and fallopian tubes.

You recently fucked an old guy with a swollen and puffy dick, now you're scared you have an STD?

Girl go talk to your OBGYN, I’m sure they’ve dealt with much worse cases of whatever you think you have. Frantic google searching your symptoms on WebMD will probably not ease your worries. Go to your OBGYN, and have a chat! They’ll be able to provide you with better insight on what you might have and provide next steps.

And if your OBGYN is a guy which makes you nervous, feel free to request a female practitioner. They want you to be as comfortable as possible, and you maintain your autonomy over who treats you!

Also if you don’t necessarily agree with your practitioner's prognosis, it is perfectly fine to seek a second opinion. Get that pussy looked at, and take your fear of the OBGYN down to a reasonable level. Because it can totally be intimidating, but that shouldn’t stop you from getting the care you deserve.