The Orgasm Delay No One Talks About

Mentally There, Physically Stuck

You find yourself totally absorbed in the activity.The environment is dimly lit. The action is set up in just the right way. Then…nothing.

While your partner feels deliciously happy after orgasm, you’re still on your way there or haven’t managed to get there at all.

Sound familiar? You are now part of the club very few people speak of which is the delayed orgasm. Many people actually share this experience and it is not an uncommon occurrence.

Why Isn’t This Talked About More? 🤐

This is because many of us believe that having an orgasm is supposed to be fast, automatic and stress-free if everything is “right.” Sorry, that's not how our bodies actually function. Brains don’t either.

Sexual struggles at climax times can be experienced by people of any gender, orientation or skill level. Shame makes us unable to talk about it, and silence prevents us from moving forward.

With that in mind, let’s reveal discuss the topic openly.

It’s Not Just Physical 🧠💔

Let’s face it: sex is always more than just a physical act. It encompasses all the mental things you are going through as you take your partner to bed as well.

The brain has both a mechanism that brakes pleasure and another that increases it. Many people notice their brakes are much more responsive. Although your body is on board, your brain will ask you, “Did you remember to lock the door?” Is it possible someone will hear what we are saying? I just made a sound, was that weird? These mental voices are a large part of your delayed orgasm.

Let’s Talk About the Toys 🧸⚡

Here’s where having fun becomes practical too. Using sex toys goes beyond passion, you need to think carefully about how to use them. In case you’re delayed and stuck, choosing the right toy can speed things up and have your pleasure engine take off in ways you might not be able to achieve with your hands or genitals alone.

Some toys guarantee the perfect level of pleasure, pressure, and speed that our bodies just can’t keep up with. They don’t take the place of real people. Sex toys help increase your pleasure.

Try:

A suction toy if you like direct clitoral stimulation. A vibrating toy if you want intense, ongoing stimulation If you are looking for internal sensation, a G-spot or prostate massager might be just for you! It’s not considered cheating, instead it is science and self care.

Orgasm Tips That Work 💡

Get rid of old advice and focus on these steps that can really help you.

1. Ditch the Deadline.

It’s not necessary to work hard for an orgasm; just let it happen. As you increase the pressure, the more difficult it gets. Trust that the solution will find you.

2. Know Your Arousal Pattern.

Are you slowly building yourself up? Someone who imagines different events and scenes in their mind? Do you need at least five kinds of touch before you can have sex? When you know what gives you motivation, you will progress faster.

3. Lube is love.

There’s a common misconception that using lube is optional. It’s not. If you’re playing alone or with someone, lubes reduce the friction, heighten sensations and enhance pleasure.

4. Breathe. Yes, Breathe.

Organisms are simply physical activities. Oxygen is required by your body. Allow yourself to exhale rather than holding your breath when you are aroused. A simple practice, yet it’s amazing how it can work.

5. Focus on Feel, Not Finish.

Enjoyment can be felt in every step, not just in the climax. Admiring the sequence of events might cause the climax to take you by surprise.

You Are Not the Problem ❤️

Everyone goes through this from time to time because it’s part of living. No one wins a speed award for sex, no one keeps track of personal records, and there’s no embarrassment in not reaching an orgasm right away.

You should be able to enjoy these experiences that comes naturally, relationships where you fit comfortably, and climaxes that feel just right for you.

Take Pleasure Back 😌

You’ve been patient for too long now! Look for toys that interest you the most, and try different things that will help you reach an orgasm successfully. Mention your climax struggles to your partner without feeling embarrassed. For the sake of your pleasure now is the time to communicate what feels good and what doesn't.

Are you keen on trying out new ways to enhance pleasure? Explore Toychats.com for sex-positive experiences and pick the one you like best. Let’s put an end to the delay once and for all. 💥