What Your Sex Dreams Say About You
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Picture this:
You slowly descend into the sweet abyss of sleep, and as you slumber you are confronted with your ex. He looks really good with his huge cock in hand, stroking the shaft with eyes locked on you.
It dawns on you that this is a sex dream, but despite this realization you take a step closer until you can feel his breath on your skin. Reaching down you grab his length between your fingertips, and take the reins as you rub his dick in tantalizing pumps.
Suddenly your panties are wet and your pussy is ready to be filled by his penis. You guide his penis to your entrance, and your clit catches fire as his dick stretches out your pussy. This elicits an aching tight sensation that metastasizes throughout your body.
You ride his dick into oblivion, and for a split second you reach nirvana.
The strange vividness of the experience snaps you back to consciousness. Damp sheets cling to your skin, and watching your partner sleep undisturbed beside you triggers a wave of uncomfortable guilt.
Wet and humiliated you think to yourself, what just happened? It is actually quite a normal phenomenon to have a sex dream. While it might not be in your best interest to tell your current partner about the sex dream, it can be beneficial to consider why you had the dream in the first place. Sex dreams can be an indicator of something happening to you in the real world, and it may be your body’s way of processing certain feelings or emotions. Do not worry my little cum gremlin, this guide will give you insight into what your sex dreams say about you.
Cheating on Your Partner
Cheating on your partner, most likely with your ex, in the dream landscape can be a result of feelings of jealousy or lack of intimacy. When people have this dream it likely means that they are jealous of their current partner’s relationship with someone else, and can be a revenge type dream, Lauri Loewenberg, a certified dream analyst, said in Glamour Magazine.
This is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, having a sex dream where you cheat on your partner can be a real wake up call to initiate genuine conversations with your loved one. Having this dream doesn’t mean that either of you are at fault or did something wrong in the relationship, it merely means that there are some unresolved feelings that you need to navigate as a couple.
Sex With a Stranger
A sex dream with a stranger typically just means you're horny. If your brain is concocting scenarios where you are having sex with random people, both your subconscious and physical body are begging for a good orgasm. Go fuck your pillow or something fam.
Sex With an Authority Figure
A sex dream with your boss is not uncommon and can indicate a need for power and autonomy over your own life. According to Emma Kobil, licensed counselor, there is a correlation between this dream and seeking approval from authority figures. In some cases, having a sex dream about your boss can mean that you spend lots of time together and want to possess some of the skills that they have. While it may not necessarily be a fun dream to have (or it might), it usually points towards feelings of control, power, competency, and approval.
Getting Freaky With Your Boo
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you that dreaming about having sex with your current partner is a fairly good sign. This typically means that you are emotionally aligned with your partner and share an intimate connection beyond the physical world.
Having a sexy dream about your partner offers a unique opportunity to share the experience with them and explore what it might reveal about your desires or relationship. It also provides a natural way to introduce new ideas into your sex life.
If something from the dream intrigued you, discussing it can be an easy way to make things spicy in the bedroom. Dreams can serve as a low-pressure conversation starter for exploring new sex positions and kinks.
Final Thoughts
Sex dreams are a perfectly normal part of life, and should not be cause for concern. While it may be momentarily jarring to have a naughty dream with someone unexpected, it can act as a source of reflection and offer a safe space to play out scenarios that would otherwise be difficult to navigate in the real world. Take your dream analysis with a grain of salt because you might just be horny, so go blow your load and check out ToyChats.com for more dirty fuckery.
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