So you want to learn how to give a good blowjob? Whether you're interested in sucking dick for beginners or you want to level up your BJ skills, this comprehensive guide will teach you everything. From basic techniques to advanced moves like how to deepthroat, we'll cover all you need to know about giving mind-blowing oral pleasure.

Getting Started: The Mindset for Giving Amazing Head

The most important thing about learning how to suck dick isn't the physical technique, it's your enthusiasm. When you look genuinely excited to devour his member, that energy transforms everything. Your partner would much rather be with someone who's enthusiastic about sucking their dick than someone who has perfect technique but seems bored or disconnected. 

Think about why you want to get better at it in the first place. Maybe you love the power of reducing your partner to a moaning mess. Maybe you enjoy the intimacy of the act. Maybe you get turned on by their pleasure. Whatever your motivation is, connecting with it will make you better than any technique ever could.

Your partner can sense when you're truly enjoying having their dick in your mouth versus just going through the motions. This is what separates an okay experience from a truly unforgettable blowjob. The best part? When you're having fun giving your man head, he relaxes and enjoys it more too. You naturally pay more attention to his responses, you're more creative with your approach, and you're more likely to discover what drives him absolutely wild.

Making the Perfect Setting

For the best BJs to happen, you need to be mindful about the setting. Harsh overhead lighting can make anyone feel self-conscious. Go for soft lamp lighting or candles to create a more flattering and romantic atmosphere. You can also play some music. It sets the mood and provides rhythm if you want it.

Make sure you're physically comfortable before you start. If you're going to be on your knees, put a pillow down first. Your knees will thank you. If he's standing, make sure he has something to lean against when his knees inevitably get weak from your amazing BJ skills. 

Consider the temperature of the room too. You want it warm enough that being naked is comfortable, but not so hot that you're sweating profusely as you’re working on him down there.

Before You Start Sucking His Dick

Cleanliness is important if you’re going to be sucking some guy’s cock. If you're worried about his hygiene, suggest showering together as foreplay. That in itself can be part of the buildup. Soap each other up, let your hands wander, and maybe even start teasing him there. By the time you make it to the bedroom, you'll both be clean, relaxed, and incredibly turned on.

If a full shower isn't possible, have some unscented wipes nearby. But just know that once you're in the moment, you might find that your partner's natural scent is actually a turn-on. Pheromones are powerful, and the unique smell of your partner can become associated with pleasure in your mind. 

Basic Techniques On How to Suck a Penis

Start by kissing him deeply, then slowly work your way down his body. Don't just dive straight onto his cock like you're in a race. Building anticipation is important for amazing blowjobs. This will make everything more intense. Kiss his neck, his chest, his stomach. Let your hair trail across his skin if it's long enough. Breathe warm air through his underwear while maintaining eye contact. Trail your fingers along his inner thighs, getting close to his dick but not quite touching yet.

You can spend time kissing and licking everywhere except his penis. His hip bones, the crease where his thigh meets his groin, his lower belly. This kind of teasing builds incredible anticipation so that when you finally touch his dick, even the lightest contact feels amazing. It also gives you time to gauge his responses and see what he likes. By the time you actually start sucking his cock, he should be desperate for your touch. 

Now let's get into the actual techniques for sucking dick. First and most importantly, please always cover your teeth with your lips. Your lips should create a smooth, soft surface that glides along his shaft. Nothing ruins the mood faster than accidentally scraping his dick with your teeth, so always keep this in mind.

Begin with gentle kisses and licks along his shaft. This is the warm up, your chance to explore and tease. Use the flat part of your tongue for broad strokes from base to tip. These long, slow licks help build arousal and let you both ease into the experience. 

You can vary the pressure, sometimes barely grazing with your tongue, other times pressing more firmly. Pay attention to how he responds. Does he twitch when you lick certain spots? Does his breathing change? Take these as your clues to what feels good for him.

Pay special attention to the frenulum, the ridge where the head meets the shaft. This spot is crucial for giving amazing head. Many people learning how to give a blowjob overlook this spot, but gentle attention here can drive him absolutely wild. Try flicking your tongue across it lightly, or pressing the flat of your tongue against it while moving your head slightly. The frenulum is often the most sensitive part of the penis, so discovering exactly how your partner likes it stimulated is important.

Another thing you can do is create a seal with your lips around the head and use gentle suction. You want just enough pressure to create a different sensation, a gentle pulling that enhances the other things you're doing with your tongue and lips. As you get more comfortable with these basic techniques, you can experiment with different levels of suction, but always start gently and build it up based on his reactions.

The Hand-Mouth Combo

Another game-changing tip for how to suck your man's dick: use your hands along with your mouth. It’s one of the best blowjob tips and techniques you’ll ever learn that solves multiple challenges at once: prevents jaw fatigue and lets you stimulate the entire length of his dick even if you can't fit it all in your mouth.

Wrap your hand around the base of his shaft. Your grip should be firm but not tight. Imagine holding an ice cream cone that you don’t want to crush. Move your hand in sync with your mouth, creating one continuous motion. As your mouth goes down, your hand follows. You come up, your hand comes up too. This creates the sensation of one long, wet stroke that can feel absolutely incredible to him.

Try twisting your hand as you stroke while sucking. The combination of your wet mouth on the head and your hand working the shaft with that twisting motion creates amazing sensations. This is one of those techniques that works for almost every guy. The twist can be subtle, just a slight rotation as you move up and down, or more pronounced, it’s up to you. Experiment with different directions and speeds to see what gets the best response.

Use plenty of saliva or lube to keep everything slick. Don't be shy about letting your spit drip down the shaft. In fact, the messier and wetter things get, the better it usually feels. If you're not producing enough saliva naturally, keep a glass of water nearby for quick sips, or invest in a good flavored lube made for oral sex.

How to Deepthroat

Since many people are curious about this advanced technique, I’m going to share with you my advice on how to deepthroat. First, you need to know that deep throating is not necessary for an enjoyable blowjob. Plenty of people give great BJs without ever having to do this. Some just aren’t able to and that’s completely fine. But if you want to try a deepthroat blowjob, here's how to do it properly.

With deep throating, you’re basically training your body to suppress its natural gag reflex and relax your throat muscles enough to accommodate more length. Begin by practicing your gag reflex control when you’re alone. Use a toothbrush to gently touch the back of your tongue, holding it there for a few seconds at a time. You're probably going to gag at first, that’s fine, but keep practicing. Over time, you’ll be able to hold it there longer as your reflex becomes less sensitive. 

When you're ready to deep throat your guy's dick, pick a position that creates a straighter path from your mouth to your throat. The classic porn position of being on your knees while he stands is actually one of the more difficult angles for deep throating, so don't start there. Instead, you want to lie on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. This position works well because it aligns your mouth and throat. You can also try lying on your side with him kneeling beside your head, or even certain angles in 69 position. 

Now remember, you have to breathe through your nose. Practice breathing slowly and steadily through your nostrils while your mouth is occupied. Stay as relaxed as possible since tension can make your throat constrict. When you feel his dick approaching the back of your throat, try swallowing. This swallowing motion naturally relaxes your throat muscles and can help you get past your gag point. Go slowly, take breaks whenever you need them, and use your hand to control how deep you take him.

Just know that gagging is very normal when you’re learning to deep throat your guy’s dick. Discuss signals beforehand to communicate if you need a break. Don’t ever feel pressured to deepthroat. Not everyone enjoys it or needs to master it. But if you do, suck away!

More Techniques for Sucking Your Guy's Dick

Temperature play can add amazing sensations to his dick. Try holding ice water or warm tea in your mouth before sucking your man's dick. The change in temperature will feel incredible to him. You can alternate between warm and cool for contrast. Some even like using ice cubes directly, running them along the shaft before following the cold trail with their warm mouth.

The humming technique is another fantastic variation to your repertoire. While his dick is in your mouth, hum. The vibrations from humming travel through the shaft and create unique sensations that many guys absolutely love. 

Don't forget about his balls. While focusing on sucking his dick with your mouth, you can gently massage his balls with your free hand. Cup them gently, roll them carefully in your palm, or lightly tug on them. Some guys also enjoy having their balls licked or gently sucked. You can trace your tongue along the seam in the middle, take one ball gently into your mouth, or plant soft kisses all over them. Always be gentle here. The balls are sensitive and too much pressure can be painful for him.

The perineum (area between balls and anus) is another sensitive spot that often gets overlooked when learning how to suck his dick. This area is packed with nerve endings and pressing on it can indirectly stimulate the prostate. You can lick this area, press on it with your fingers, or gently massage it while you're focusing your mouth elsewhere. Some men find this incredibly pleasurable, while others might be initially hesitant. As with everything, communication is key.

Play around with different techniques to keep things interesting. You don’t want to overstimulate just one area. Alternate between focusing on just the head with lots of tongue action and taking more length into your mouth. Switch between sucking and licking. Change your rhythm, sometimes slow and teasing, sometimes faster and more intense. Use your tongue in different ways, flat and broad for general stimulation, pointed for precise attention to sensitive spots, swirling around the head, flicking across the frenulum. 

The #1 Problem with Giving Blowjobs: My Jaw’s Tired and It’s Taking Too Long!

Jaw fatigue is probably the most common issue when you’re still trying to get used to giving blowjobs. Your jaw muscles aren't used to this kind of sustained activity and will get tired. The key is to have alternatives ready so you can continue giving amazing head without suffering through the pain.

As soon as you feel your jaw getting tired, you can switch techniques. Move from having him in your mouth to licking along the shaft. You can do long, slow licks from base to tip, swirl your tongue around the head, or trace patterns along the shaft. Focus on just the tip while stroking the shaft with your hand, or take a complete break from mouth action and use only your hands for a bit. Keep some good lube nearby so the handjob feels just as good as the blowjob.

If your partner takes a long time to cum, don't take it personally or see it as a reflection of your skills. Many things can affect how long it takes for him to finish - stress, medication, alcohol, when he last came, or just individual differences. Some guys simply take longer than others, and that's neither good nor bad, it's just how their body works. Sometimes taking a break like cuddling, kissing, or massaging him, then returning to sucking later, can help. 

Big Dick, Small Dick, Suck ‘Em All!

Size considerations matter too when learning how to give a blowjob. If your partner is larger, focus on the head and use your hands for the shaft. You don't need to deep throat to give amazing head. In fact, the head is usually the most sensitive part anyway, so lavishing it with attention while using your hands on the shaft can feel better than trying to take more than you're comfortable with.

If he's smaller, you might be able to use more suction and tongue action comfortably. You can take him fully in your mouth more easily, which allows for some techniques that might be difficult with a larger partner. You have more room to move your tongue around, so get creative with swirling, flicking, and pressing motions. Work with what you've got and remember that enthusiasm matters more than accommodating every inch.

Swallowing Cum

Pay attention to your guy’s body as you’re sucking his cock. You’ll know when he’s approaching orgasm because his muscles will tense up. His thighs, abs, his whole body might become rigid. His breathing will get faster and shallower or sometimes, he might hold his breath entirely. His dick might get even harder, almost pulsing with his heartbeat. Some men get louder as they approach climax, while others get quieter. 

I know I said variety is important but if you notice these signs that he’s about to cum, you need to keep doing whatever it is that you’re doing. Keep the same rhythm, the same pressure, the same technique. Don't suddenly change what you're doing. His body is climbing toward orgasm on the steady stimulation you're providing. The biggest mistake people make is thinking they need to speed up or go harder as their partner approaches orgasm. In reality, consistency is key for helping him reach climax. 

The question of whether you should swallow cum or not is entirely up to you. Some partners find it incredibly hot and intimate. There’s just something amazing about complete acceptance that many guys find deeply arousing. If you want to try swallowing cum, be prepared for the taste and texture. It varies significantly based on diet, hydration, and other factors. Some find that cum tastes bitter, others salty, some barely taste it at all. The texture is usually the bigger adjustment than the taste.

If you decide you want to swallow, doing it quickly is often easier than holding it in your mouth. You can also position yourself so it goes toward the back of your throat, bypassing most of your taste buds.

But if you prefer not to swallow, you can spit discreetly into a tissue or towel, or have him finish elsewhere, your chest, stomach, or wherever you're comfortable. Some people enjoy the visual of watching their partner cum, so pulling back at the last moment and using your hand can be incredibly hot too. You can also tell him directly what you want: "I want you to cum in my mouth" or "I want to watch you cum on me". 

Some Nice Extras

Eye contact while giving head creates incredible intimacy and can make the experience more intense for both of you. There's something incredibly vulnerable and connected about looking into each other's eyes during such an intimate act. You don't have to maintain it constantly. That would be weird. But occasional eye contact, especially when you're doing something you know they love, can be incredibly hot.

Let him grab or play with your hair if you enjoy that, or hold hands for extra connection. Graze your hands around his body as you're sucking him - on his arms, chest, belly, hips, thighs, legs. Find the spots that make him quiver. There’s a misconception that only women appreciate sensual touch but guys actually love it too! So you have a great opportunity to spoil him here. These physical connections beyond just mouth-to-penis contact help maintain intimacy and make the experience about more than just the physical sensation.

You can also experiment with toys or accessories. A vibrating cock ring can add extra sensation for him while giving you something to work around. Some enjoy blindfolds, either wearing one to enhance the other senses or blindfolding their partner to make every touch a surprise. Just remember that anything you add should enhance the experience, not distract from the main event of you giving amazing head.

Can You Get HIV or STDs from Oral Sex?

Now that we’ve covered all the cocksucking techniques, let's talk about an important safety question: can you get HIV or STDs from oral sex? The short answer is yes, it is possible to transmit certain STIs through oral contact. While the risk is generally lower than with penetrative sex, it's important that you know so you can make the best decisions for your health and safety.

Infections like gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and HPV can be transmitted through oral sex. These can be passed from the genitals to the mouth and throat, or from the mouth to the genitals. HIV transmission through oral sex is less common but still possible, especially if you have cuts, sores, or bleeding gums in your mouth. This risk increases if your partner cums in your mouth.

To reduce your risk, avoid brushing or flossing right before (which can create small cuts in your mouth), consider using flavored condoms or dental dams, and have a conversation with your partner about testing and sexual health. If you notice any sores, unusual discharge, or other symptoms on your partner, it's best to hold off on BJs and suggest that you get tested together.

Communication: The Key to Great BJs

Great communication is absolutely essential for learning how to suck dick well. Every person is different, with unique preferences, sensitive spots, and turn-ons. What worked amazingly with one partner might do nothing for another. That's why talking to your guy and paying attention to his responses is so important. 

Ask for feedback as you’re doing it, but make it sexy. "You like that, baby?", "Show me what you like" or "Tell me how you want me to suck your cock" are all ways to get information while maintaining the mood. After you've been intimate, you can ask more specific questions: "What was your favorite part?" or "Is there anything you want me to do more of next time?" 

Pay attention to patterns over time. Maybe he always moans the loudest when you do that swirling thing with your tongue. Maybe his breathing changes in a particular way when you use more suction. Maybe he can't help but thrust their hips when you pay attention to the frenulum. Building this mental map of his responses helps you become more intuitive about what he needs in the moment.

Practice, Patience, and Staying Playful

Like any skill worth mastering, becoming amazing at giving blowjobs takes practice. Every time you're sucking your man's dick, you have the opportunity to try something new, refine your technique, or discover a new thing that drives him wild.

Stay playful and experimental. Just because something worked well doesn't mean you can't try new things. Maybe you read about a new technique, or you have an idea in the shower, or you saw something in ethical porn that looks fun to try. 

Not every session has to be a marathon or end in orgasm. Sometimes quickie blowjobs can be just as fun as longer sessions. The intimacy, pleasure, and connection you share are valuable regardless of the outcome.

Final Thoughts on Giving Amazing Blowjobs

Learning how to give a good blowjob takes time. The techniques in this guide, from basic sucking to advanced deep throating are tools to help you express your desire and create pleasure. Remember that your comfort and enjoyment matter just as much as your partner's. When you're having fun, that energy is contagious and makes everything better.

Whether you're new to BJs or you're ready to suck dick like a pro, just know that the best blowjobs come from a place of genuine desire and connection. Your willingness to read this entire guide and learn shows what an amazing, caring partner you are. 

Now take what you've learned, talk to your partner, and go forth to give some truly mindblowing blowjobs!