How to Use a Butt Plug (Without Freaking Out)

Using a butt plug isn’t rocket science, but it’s also not as simple as “just shove and go.” The difference between an awkward first attempt and a “holy shit, why didn’t I do this sooner?” moment comes down to pacing, mindset, and lube. Lots of lube. And remember: butt plugs aren’t just for one kind of body, if you’ve got an asshole, you’ve got the equipment to enjoy them.

Step 1: Lube Up (Seriously, Don’t Skip This)

Your butt doesn’t self-lubricate, so lube is non-negotiable. Think of it as the magic sauce that turns “ouch” into “ahhh.” If your toy is silicone, stick with water-based lube so you don’t degrade the material. For glass or steel, silicone lube is fantastic because it’s thicker and longer-lasting. And don’t be stingy , coat the toy, your entrance, even your fingers. Slippery is sexy here.

Step 2: Warm Up Before the Main Event

Jumping straight to a plug is like trying to sprint without stretching. Start with a finger (yours or your partner’s), circle the rim, maybe slide one in and out to let your sphincter chill. If you’ve got a training kit, begin with the smallest size. Your muscles need a moment to go from “no entry” to “door’s open, come on in.”

Step 3: Slow Insertion Is Everything

When it’s time for the plug, go slow, slower than you think. Angle the toy toward your belly button, breathe, and let your muscles wrap around it. Positions help here:

• Side-lying: Lie on your side with knees bent, like a cozy nap.

• Doggy-style: On all fours, hips back, gravity lends a hand.

• Squat: Great control and a natural angle for sliding in.

• Flat on your back: Knees up, hips slightly lifted with a pillow.

Play around with angles and see what feels best for your body. The goal isn’t to rush; it’s to savor the stretch as your body adapts.

Step 4: Play Around and Experiment

Once the plug is in congratulations, you’re officially in the club. But the fun doesn’t stop there. Wear it during masturbation and see how it makes everything more intense. Pair it with vaginal or prostate play for that delicious feeling of fullness. If you’re bold (and experienced), try wearing a small plug discreetly under clothes and enjoy the secret thrill of knowing it’s there. Bottom line: every ass is different, so experiment until you find what makes yours happiest.

Step 5: Cleanup and Aftercare

When the fun’s over don’t yank, gently ease the plug out while breathing steadily. Pro tip: it often feels easier after orgasm because your pelvic floor is relaxed. Then, wash your toy with warm water and mild soap. Non-motorized plugs in silicone, glass, or steel can be boiled or even run through the dishwasher. Store it in a lint-free bag so it’s ready for next time. Think of cleanup as aftercare: your toy gets love, and your butt stays happy.