How to Use Anal Toys

Backdoor play is finally getting the recognition it deserves. People of all genders are discovering the immense pleasure of stimulating their booty.

The trick to falling in love with anal play is starting out small and taking it easy. What better way to introduce a some exotic tushy action than with anal toys?

Luckily, we’ve compiled a concise guide to anal toys. Complete with tips for choosing the right toy, how to use those toys, and any extra tidbits you might need to know before diving in.

Whether you’re a backdoor novice or an anal expert, this article is here to help you work out the kinks.

Anal toys are designed to help you avoid discomfort and pain associated with anal sex. Think of them as both training wheels and the main event.

You can use butt plugs, anal beads, prostate massagers, or anal dildos to get comfortable with anal penetration, add them to your solo play routine, or bring them into the bedroom with a partner.

Anal toys have distinctly flared base or long tail that prevent them from getting lost inside your body, avoiding a very awkward ER visit.

When done right, using anal toys is exciting and simple. The perfect recipe includes the right toy and the right lube.

When shopping for anal toys, consider length, girth, and material. 

There’s no such thing as “too small” when it comes to first time anal sex. Comfort is the name of the game; the more comfortable you become, the more your toy collection can grow.

Anal Training kits are excellent for anal newbies. They typically include 3 butt plugs of varying sizes, with the smallest being around the width of a finger. They’ll always have flared bases and are typically available in silicone.

Anal beads, anal dildos, and prostate massagers also come in a variety of sizes and materials, often with vibrating heads and stimulating textures.

Silicone is the most forgiving material for anal toys. Your anus is made up of delicate tissues that do not make their own lubrication. Softer, pliable toys work with the body, providing a gentler introduction to backdoor play.

Glass and metal are wonderful options for anal toys. They allow you to play with temperature and are weighted, adding another level of stimulation. However, you may have to work your way up to glass and metal.

Lubricant is your best friend, don't forget it. 

Once you have your toy picked out, lube is next on the list. There are water, oil, and silicone-based lubricants out there designed specially for anal sex. The type of lube you want depends on the material of your toy and whether you’ll be using a condom.

1. Water-based lubricant: Compatible with most materials, including silicone, and does not degrade condoms. However, it does dry out quickly and requires more reapplication.
2. Oil-based lubricant: Generally safe on silicone and long-lasting. Unfortunately, it degrades condoms and is difficult to wash out of sheets.
3. Silicone-based lubricant: It is not safe for use on silicone toys and is tricky to wash out of sheets, but not as difficult as oil-based lube. It is safe to use with condoms.

1. Start Slow, Start Solo

Most likely, your first toy will have a tapered, cone-like shape. It’s going to start small, bow out a little, and shrink back down–at least that’s how it’ll feel. 

Don’t push it in immediately. Take it slow. This is new for your backend, and your muscles need time to relax around the toy. 

To make things even more comfortable, generously lube up your toy and apply a little directly to your anus. Begin inserting the toy slowly, continuing as far as is comfortable. When you feel resistance, pause and breathe. Exhaling will help your muscles relax.

Pull the toy out, even if it’s only partially in, and repeat.

After a few minutes and repetitions, the toy should be easy to insert fully. Reapply lube as much as you’d like throughout the process. When the toy is in place, start playing. You can leave it in while you have a little solo play, or work on slowly pulling it out and putting it back in. Choose your adventure.

If you feel any pain, stop. Slowly pull the toy out to reduce additional discomfort, and take a few minutes to rest before starting again. Or, call it, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

1. Removing Anal Toys

Removing butt plugs or any other anal toy is easy as pie. 

Grip the flared base or tail of the toy with your fingers and gently pull. If you meet resistance or discomfort, push just a little, as if you’re having a bowel movement. This will open the sphincter slightly to accommodate the toy's bulbous body. (Don’t worry, you will not poop in your bed)

1. Relax and Enjoy Yourself

Your breath will help you more than you can imagine. Relaxation is the key to anal play, and it takes time. 

Everything from physical discomfort to internalized shame can affect your experience. Anal sex has been taboo for too long. We’ve been taught that it’s dirty, wrong, and devoid of pleasure.

By slowly introducing yourself and your body to anal play, you’re learning to relax and welcoming new sensation and pleasure into your life. 

1. Keep it Clean

Clean. Your. Toys.

As soon as you’re done playing, rinse your toys off. Follow up with non-scented, anti-bacterial soap, and rinse again. Dry them off completely with a clean towel.

Store your toys in a safe place, preferably a bag or designated compartment. 

Do not double-dip. If it’s been in your butt, it cannot go into your vagina or someone else. Either clean the toy or switch condoms, or both, before going back to front.

1. Be Adventurous

So, you bought an anal training kit and you love it. What’s next? Vibrating anal beads? A prostate massager for your partner? Maybe you want to explore pegging? 

The world of anal sex toys is your oyster, go forth and lubricate.