Are we really talking sex positions if 69 doesn’t make an appearance? It’s basically the celebrity of the bedroom, going from Grandma May’s whispered warnings to a feature in just about every porno ever made.

Sure, it’s wild and fun. But let’s be honest: sometimes it feels less like a hot hookup and more like patting your head and rubbing your tummy at the same time. Sexy? Sure. Intimate? Not always.

That’s where a lesser-known, wildly underrated move slips into the spotlight: Position 68.

Yes, we’re stepping back a digit, but the pleasure? That’s a giant leap forward. If you're looking to spice up your sex life with something more sensual, more focused, and far less chaotic, this might just be your new favourite.

Let’s talk about it in real terms, no jargon, no pressure, and definitely no performance. Unlike its better-known cousin, 69, where both people give and receive simultaneously (and often struggle to focus on either), Position 68 slows everything down.

It creates space for one partner to take full control of giving oral pleasure, while the other gets to fully surrender to the experience. It's all one direction: attention and intimacy flowing from giver to receiver.

It can start simply. The receiving partner lies back on a bed, couch, or soft surface, not in a "ready to perform" pose, but relaxed. Legs open, breath steady, heart beating a little faster in anticipation.

The giving partner gets into a natural, comfortable position. Maybe they kneel between their lover’s legs. Perhaps they lie down and get close. The key is comfort for both bodies, but especially for the giver's focus and flow.

From there, it begins with a slow build: kisses, soft licks, teasing touches. This isn’t about racing to the finish. It’s about reading every gasp, noticing every shift in breath, and following the rhythm of the receiver’s responses. It’s not just physical—it’s emotional, too.

So much of modern sex is about multitasking. Even something as intimate as oral can feel performative when both people are trying to do it at the same time. You’re giving, receiving, thinking, reacting, sometimes more focused on doing it "right" than actually feeling it.

Position 68 clears out the noise.

The giver can relax into their role, focusing entirely on what their partner enjoys. Every breath, every moan, every subtle movement becomes feedback. And the receiver? They don’t have to do anything: no reciprocation, thinking, or pressure.

Being touched by someone who genuinely wants to give, not because they expect anything in return, is powerful and not just in a poetic sense. Research shows that sexual touch motivated by care, generosity, or desire to please (rather than obligation), significantly boosts emotional connection, sexual satisfaction, and even relationship stability.

Sex positions are like a toy chest. Anyone can try them, but some just click depending on your mood, comfort, or connection. Position 68 is perfect if you want to:

1. Slow down and make sex feel more personal
2. Work through body confidence or anxiety
3. Explore sensual dominance or power exchange
4. Reconnect after emotional distance
5. Turn oral sex into a full-body experience

And yes, roles can absolutely be swapped. But part of what makes this position so satisfying is the lack of expectation. Just pure giving. And pure receiving.

Position 68 isn’t about a fixed technique. It’s about intention. You can shape it to match your energy, comfort, and desires. A few popular variations include:

1. Classic: Receiver on their back, giver between the legs
2. Face-down: Receiver lies on stomach, giver from behind or underneath
3. Seated: Receiver on the edge of the bed or chair, giver kneeling in front
4. Standing: Receiver upright or leaning against a wall, giver kneeling below

If you really want to level up Position 68, try layering in a few extras to shift the experience from slow burn to full-body symphony. We’re talking back-arching, leg-shaking, blissed-out kind of pleasure, the kind that leaves you flat on your back, making noises you didn’t know were in your range.

Here’s how to take it there:

1. Use your hands or sex toys to stimulate other erogenous zones
2. Try temperature play with ice cubes, warm breath, or flavoured lubes
3. Incorporate dirty talk, moans, or verbal praise
4. Explore tease and denial — pull back right before climax, then start again
5. Set the mood with music, soft lighting, or scent

Position 68 won’t go viral on TikTok. It’s not a novelty move or something you brag about. But it’s the kind of sex that sticks with you. The kind that makes you feel seen, safe, wanted, and completely tuned in. So next time you want to ditch the pressure and focus on genuine connection, go with 68.