Golden showers are the kink people whisper about but secretly Google at 2 a.m. If you’re just curious, turned on, or ready to try pee play for the first time, this guide breaks it all down, from what it is, why people love it, and how to do it safely without wrecking your sheets or anything else.

What Are Golden Showers?

A golden shower is a type of watersports kink that involves urinating on, or being urinated on, during a sexual or intimate moment. The act can be playful, dominant, submissive, erotic, messy, or emotional, depending on the dynamic. It’s often associated with urolagnia or urophilia — terms that describe sexual arousal linked to urine or the act of urination. For some, the appeal lies in the taboo or elements of power exchange; for others, it’s about the physical sensations or a deeper sense of intimacy. As with any kink, it should only be explored with clear consent and good hygiene practices.

Types of golden shower play include:

-Being peed on while clothed

-Peeing during sex or oral play

-Being peed on as part of domination or humiliation play

-Urinating on a partner’s body (chest, stomach, thighs, etc.)

-Pee drinking (aka “water play ingestion”)—less common, more extreme

This kink is done with a partner, and it’s often part of BDSM dynamics or power exchange relationships. But not always. Some people just really like the warmth, wetness, and intimacy. It’s a legitimate sexual preference, not a punchline.

Why Do People Like Golden Showers?

Understanding why people enjoy golden showers helps reduce the stigma and lets you explore it from a place of curiosity instead of judgment. Here’s the real breakdown:

1. It’s a Taboo Turn-On

Humans are wired to get turned on by the forbidden. Peeing is private. We’re taught it’s “gross.” So doing it sexually feels rebellious, risky, and emotionally intense. Breaking taboos can be a serious aphrodisiac.

2. It’s About Power and Control

In dominant/submissive kink play, the act of peeing on someone can feel incredibly dominant, while receiving can feel submissive, exposed, and obedient. It’s often used in humiliation kinks, but it doesn’t have to be degrading. Some people see it as a gift of ultimate trust.

3. It’s Sensory and Physical

Warm fluid running down your body? Wet skin, unexpected sensation, and the pure messiness of it? That alone can feel erotic to the right person. For some, it’s all about the sensation play aspect, like water play, but a little wilder.

4. It Builds Intimacy

Letting someone pee on you (or vice versa) takes vulnerability. For many, this creates a powerful bond. Watersports kink is often about emotional exposure and getting raw in a space where trust is everything.

Is Pee Play Safe?

Yes, golden showers are generally safe when done correctly. Urine is sterile in healthy people. It’s mostly water, urea, and trace minerals. It’s not filled with toxins or disease (contrary to popular myth).

Golden Shower Safety Guidelines:

-Stick to external play: Peeing on the skin is safe. The face, stomach, thighs, and feet are all fine.

-Stay out of the eyes and open wounds: Urine can irritate if there’s broken skin or mucous membrane exposure.

-Oral pee play: If you’re curious about drinking pee, make sure the person is healthy, well-hydrated, and STI-free. Always start slow and use small amounts.

-Avoid pee in the vagina: It can throw off pH balance and risk infection.

-Hydration matters: Proper hydration gives you a lighter-coloured pee, which smells “eww” and cleaner (in a sense). Drinking 2-3 glasses of water before play can really help with prep.

*Bonus safety tip: Peeing is NOT safe if your partner has urinary tract infections (UTIs), kidney disease, hepatitis, or STIs. Always communicate, disclose, and proceed responsibly regarding urinary health.

First Time Trying Golden Showers? Here’s Your Golden Playbook

If you're curious about trying pee play for the first time, the key is to keep it simple, sexy, and safe. You don’t need a dungeon or custom fetish gear: just a plan, some prep, and a sense of humor. Whether it’s a one-time experiment or the start of something kinkier, this watersports how-to guide will help you dive in without stress, shame, or surprise messes.

1. Set the Scene

The golden rule of beginner watersports play? Keep cleanup easy and pressure low. Your best venue for this one is not the bed (although, technically... it's not banned either). But if you're not into stripping sheets and scrubbing your mattress, the shower is 100% the move. Seriously, you can’t beat it. You’re already naked, everything’s waterproof, and cleanup takes 30 seconds flat. It’s low-stakes, low-mess, and perfect for your first time…no stress, stains, or regrets. If you aren’t in the mood for the shower and have a little more time (or guts) to prep?

Here are some golden alternatives to the shower:

-Lay down a waterproof blanket or plastic tarp. This will keep your bed or floor dry and drama-free. This is key if you're testing watersports somewhere comfy but risky.

-Stack up old towels or puppy pads. They super absorbent, disposable, and great for quick cleanups if you’re doing this on the floor or couch.

-Try it on tile, in the tub, or even over linoleum—it's splash-friendly, easy to wipe down, and requires zero fabric, which means stress-free cleanup.

*Absolute no-go: Don’t do it on the mattress unless you’ve covered it like a crime scene. Urine can stain and smell if absorbed into bedding. Not the post-orgasm memory you want.

2. Hydrate Ahead of Time

If you’re the one peeing, start hydrating early. As mentioned earlier, drink at least 2 to 3 full glasses of water about an hour or so before play. This little boost of hydration makes your urine clearer, milder-smelling, and much gentler on skin. Your pee should look mid to light yellow; that’s your green light. Dark yellow urine is a hard pass. It’s way too concentrated, strong-smelling, and just not ideal for pee play, especially if you're planning on oral watersports or targeting more sensitive spots like the face, mouth, or genitals.

*Pro tip: skip the coffee or asparagus that day. They’re known to make pee smell... intense.

3. Choose Your Roles and Dynamics

Before anything flows, talk about who’s doing what and how it should feel. Like all kink, intent and energy matter. Ask yourselves:

-Who’s peeing? Who’s receiving?

-Is this about power play? Or just kinky fun?

-Do you want dirty talk? Or silent intensity?

-Are there limits or off-zones (face, mouth, hair, etc.)?

You don’t need a detailed script, but knowing your roles and expectations helps everything flow smoother (pun fully intended). This can be a huge trust-builder if you’re experimenting with D/S dynamics. The act of receiving pee can feel submissive, vulnerable, and deeply personal, while giving can feel powerful and dominant.

4. Try Different Positions

There’s no single way to do a golden shower. Explore what feels sexy, practical, and fun for both of you. Try these first-time-friendly pee play positions:

-Standing together in the shower: Face to face or back to front. Super casual and a great starter move.

-Partner lying down with legs apart: Full target area open, especially if you want to aim for chest, stomach, or thighs.

-Sitting on the floor or in the tub: The receiving partner sits with their head back or forward. This can feel very submissive or intimate.

-Standing over your partner: This is a popular position for dominance/submission golden showers. It's very visually satisfying and commanding.

You can even do it clothed, especially with thin underwear or wet-look fabric for that soaked, taboo vibe. Just don’t be afraid to play, you’re not doing surgery, you’re exploring a fetish.

5. Aftercare = Afterflow

Let’s not skip the important part: cleaning up safely and intentionally. Even though urine is sterile in healthy people, it’s still a bodily fluid that can dry or irritate skin. Post-play pee play hygiene tips:

-Rinse off with warm water ASAP (especially in any creases or sensitive zones)

-Use fragrance-free, gentle soap on genitals and anywhere that gets wet

-Avoid douching or internal cleansing unless advised by a doctor

-Moisturize after if you’re prone to dry skin

And yes, talk about it after. How’d it feel? Would you do it again? Was it empowering? Weird? Hot? That convo is part of what makes kink intimate.

How to Make Golden Showers Even Hotter

-Add dirty talk: Words like “my filthy little toy” or “you love this, don’t you?” can amp up the erotic charge.

-Combine with toys: Try using a vibrator or plug during play to build arousal.

-Do it clothed: Wetting lingerie, panties, or even jeans adds a sexy texture and exhibitionist thrill.

-Edge play: Try peeing on someone while they’re climaxing or just before. It’s intense AF.

Golden Shower No-Nos

-Don’t surprise anyone, consent is non-negotiable.

-Don’t involve urine with open cuts, eyes, or infections.

-Don’t use it as a “test” kink. This is advanced play. It’s not a prank or shock move.

-Don’t store pee or use old urine. Bacteria build up fast.

Final Stream of Thought

Golden showers are intense, raw, and definitely not vanilla, but that doesn’t mean they’re gross or dangerous. Like every kink, they’re just another way people explore sex, sensation, power, and trust. So if it turns you on? Don’t be ashamed. Be informed. Communicate. Prep. And pee with purpose. Whether it’s a one-time thrill or a new favorite ritual, pee play is all about connection and control, and nothing’s hotter than two consenting adults doing what turns them the hell on.