How to Make Sex Feel Better: Your Guide to Better Sex

Looking to elevate your bedroom game? Or perhaps take your first sensual steps with a partner? Wherever you are on the pleasure journey, you've landed in exactly the right spot. Knowing how to make sex feel better is not rocket science, and can be done with a few simple tricks. So buckle up (or strap in—wink, wink) and let's dive into the delicious details.

Let's get one thing straight, great connections start with conversation, not penetration. Before bodies tangle between the sheets, minds need to connect through words. Consent isn't just sexy, it's essential, creating the foundation for everything that follows.

Once you've established boundaries and desires, the real exploration begins. Communication happens in multiple languages during intimacy. Pay close attention to those unspoken signals that speak volumes:

1. Does their head tilt back in ecstasy when your tongue finds that perfect spot?
2. Do you notice that subtle catch in their breath when your fingers trail across their skin?
3. How does their body respond when you move from gentle to more intense touch?

These physical responses are your roadmap to their pleasure. Reading these cues creates an experience that's not just physically satisfying but emotionally fulfilling as well.

Feel that electricity in the air? That hot anticipation that makes your skin tingle? That's the magic of taking your sweet time. For all partners, regardless of anatomy, the pathway to truly spectacular pleasure begins long before clothes hit the floor.

Foreplay is the most straightforward way to set the mood, and while typically that means going down on your partner, there are many different ways to extend the experience. Start with finding erogenous zones on your partner’s body, and giving extra attention to those sensitive areas will go a long way. Use that mouth of yours for more than just talking: lick, bite, and suck on your favorite parts of their bodies.

Research shows that the average arousal buildup benefits from about 20 minutes of attention before any thought of penetration. This isn't just about tradition, it's biology. These precious minutes allow bodies to prepare, enhancing sensitivity and responsiveness.

Arousal has physical signs worth celebrating. Natural lubrication isn't just convenient, it's a barometer of desire and readiness. To encourage this response, oral attention becomes an art form all its own:

1. For partners with penises: Start with moistened lips, tracing a tantalizing path from base to tip, varying pressure and speed to discover what elicits the most enthusiastic response. After some time, fit their shaft into your mouth and stroke with both your tongue and hand.
2. For partners with vaginas: Gentle, exploratory attention that begins at the outer labia before gradually working inward creates building waves of sensation that prepare the body for more intense pleasure. After the vagina is considerably wet, penetration with fingers or the tip of a penis can create a mind blowing build up.

Take the time to really find what makes your partner’s body sing. It may be worth the effort to switch between oral intercourse and stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones.

Let's debunk a persistent bedroom myth. Reaching for that bottle of lubricant doesn't signal a failure of arousal; it's actually a sign of bedroom wisdom. The notion that natural lubrication is the only legitimate kind belongs firmly in the past.

The reality is that a significant percentage of couples benefit from a little extra glide, regardless of how attracted they are to each other. Bodies vary in natural lubrication production due to hormones, medication, stress, or simply personal physiology none of which reflect desire or readiness.

Lube helps make the process of penetration much easier for couples, and a little goes a long way. Get it wet and get to work.

Toys are something that never go out of style which can be a powerful tool for both solo and partnered bedroom sessions. If manual or oral stimulation aren’t your thing, various options like strokers, pocket pussies, vibrators, anal plugs, and other devices are available. Whatever fits the occasion and moment is what you should use.

Sex toys are a great way to figure out what works for your body. Toys can help test your preferred pressure, intensity, and ultimate breaking point. If you don’t know your body very well this is a great way to get acquainted. More importantly, if you are new to exploring your partner this will give insight into what makes them tick

If your ex was a serial missionary fornicator, it may be scary to explore new avenues for spicing it up in the bedroom. But they’re your ex for a reason right?

It’s time to stop being vanilla in your sexcapades and learn a thing or two about different angles and entry ways that will bring you closer to the big o. For beginners, it may be beneficial to try some novice positions like the facing spoon, where you face one another and the giver can put their leg over their partner for easy access to penetration. However, more experienced couples can attempt some insane feats of sexual mastery.

You may have heard of the 69 position, where partners align themselves for mutual oral stimulation, but have you ever heard of the 68 position? In the 68 position, one partner lies on their back, while the other partner positions themselves on top, facing upward (toward the ceiling). The partners align themselves so that the person on top has their lower body positioned near their partner's face, allowing for intimate oral contact.

But sometimes it’s not what you do, it’s where you do it. Nothing’s more exciting than car sex; steamed windows and car seats down is the perfect romantic activity for those on the road. Being in a private room on wheels sounds nice in theory, but the space is a little cramped. But you can still pull off some crazy things like:

1. Getting creative with the seats, use them to your advantage by stabilizing and balancing out your weight as you ride cowgirl.
2. Mutual masturbation as you reach your climax together in the backseat can be super hot.
3. Make it a game and see how much you can make the car shake in tandem with your naughty escapades.

You can do all the tricks and try the craziest positions, but nothing’s going to work if you’re not in the right headspace.

Whether you’re doing the deed with a lifelong partner or starting a flame with that new friend you met a few hours ago, communication is key. Sexual partners who communicate with each other will always have better sex than those who don’t.

Don’t be shy to say what you like and dislike. Your partner wants you to feel good (at least they should) and you want them to feel good. If they’re doing something just right, let them know. Saying “Just like that…” works wonders. Or if they could be doing something differently, speak your mind. Moaning “faster” or “harder” should get them moving the way you want.

Getting in your partner’s head is so much more satisfying than getting in their pants.

Don’t be afraid to talk dirty. It adds a lot of fun into the bedroom. If you’re really feeling bold, then shoot them a text a few hours before you see them. Have them practically begging for it by the time they see you.

For some people, the sexiest thing about being in bed with someone is the aftercare. Cuddle up with your partner, offer them some water, and ask them how they’re doing. Aftercare looks different for everyone, but is an essential part of the experience to make your partner feel comfortable and appreciated.

Some people can get really emotional after sex, so make sure you’re taking care of the person you’re with.

Speaking of feelings, in every phase of the period cycle, women experience an influx of emotions that correspond to where they are in their cycle. Some women report an increase in libido during their period, and sex is a healthy way to release tension and cramps that may arise during this time. If your partner is someone who is into period sex, be mindful and take precautions to make the experience fun for all. Lay down a blanket to stop the flow of blood from getting on the sheets. Or ditch the blanket altogether and get in the shower for some steamy, mind numbing, and earth shattering love making.

The bottom line is that sex is just that… sex. Don’t overthink it, feel nervous, or compare yourself to others; go with what feels right for you and make sure to have fun. It’s not a sprint, it's a marathon, stop to smell the roses, and enjoy the ride. Join the conversation on sex positions, toys, foreplay, and bedroom talk at ToyChats where new content is posted every day.