Apex Sex Position for First Timers

If you’ve been curious about the Apex sex position—or you’ve heard of A-spot stimulation’s toe-curling pleasure—you’re in the right place.

The Apex position isn’t exactly straightforward, or easy, to get into. But, with a few tips from seasoned experts—*cough, cough* us—you’ll be experiencing deely satisfying orgasms that can only come from the Apex sex position.

Let’s climb this mountain, shall we?

What Is the Apex Sex Position?

There’s a surprising amount of debate over “what is the Apex sex position?”

I’m in the camp that believes there are two approaches to the Apex position: a beginner-friendly option, and a gravity-defying one.

The biggest point of consensus from all sides is that the receiving partner’s hips are elevated in this position. The second thing we all agree on is that this position is perfect for A-spot stimulation.

So, before we get bogged down in logistics, let’s talk about the A-spot.

“Apex” refers not only to the extreme angle of the receiver’s body, but to the heightened sensation delivered when the position is done right. At this angle, deeper penetration is possible, enabling the giver to reach past the G-spot to the A-spot.

The A-spot, short for anterior fornix erogenous zone, is located along the front vaginal wall near the cervix. If you’re familiar with the “come hither” finger motion used to reach the G-spot, imagine extending the fingers past that spongy material and pressing up and back. That’s the A-spot.

Both the G-spot and A-spot sit on the backside of the clitoris. However, the A-spot delivers greater stimulation to some, providing powerful orgasms and possibly leading to female ejaculation.

TL;DR: Apex = deep, soul-shattering pleasure for those girlies who don’t get what they need from the G-spot.

For more intimate sex position ideas, we’ve compiled a list of the 8 most loving sex positions out there.

How to Get Into the Apex Sex Position

A Twist on Missionary

Let’s kick it off with the simplest version of the Apex position:

1. Start off like you would in Missionary: The receiving partner should lie on their back, legs bent.

2. Elevate the hips: Using pillows, wedges, or even a folded blanket, lift the pelvis 6-12 inches off the ground. The higher the hips are lifted, the deeper the penetration. So, if this is your first time, start off with a gentle rise. Above all, think: hips above shoulders.

3. Legs open: You don’t need to be flexible for this position. The easiest place to put the receiver’s legs is on the giver’s shoulders, or planted on the bed with knees bent. My personal preference is to let my knees fall to the sides, creating a supine butterfly shape. This does require a bit more flexibility, but by opening the hips, the pelvis is able to relax more.

4. Showtime: The giving partner can kneel or stand between the receiver’s legs, depending on the height of their hips and the surface they’re lying on. The elevated angle will guide the shaft toward the A-spot, stimulating the vaginal canal and the entire back of the clitoris.

Pro Tip for the girlies: A Liberator-style wedge designed for sex positions will make this even more enjoyable and easy on the back.

Need a little help with your foreplay game? 9 Fingering Techniques that will Blow Her Mind is the perfect place to start.

The Apex of the Apex Position

The Apex position is all about achieving an angle that lines up the giver’s shaft with the back of the front vaginal wall. I know that explanation is giving AP Bio meets high school Geometry, but I promise knowing the mechanics will help.

Here’s how to defy gravity, build those core muscles, and have a screaming orgasm:

1. Find a sturdy, waist-high surface: The receiving partner will stand facing a waist-high stool, chair, or mattress. The firmer the surface, the easier this will be.

2. Lean and engage the upper body: A message for my queens: There’s a time for being a pillow princess (we all deserve that time, and there is no shame in lying back and enjoying yourself), now is not that time. The receiver should lean forward, bending at the hips, and place both hands on the stool. Pushing against the surface, the receiver creates a strong base for themselves, lighting up the shoulders, upper arms, and core.

3. Lift off: The giver stands behind the receiver to penetrate from behind. Except, this time they’ll lift the receiver’s legs one at a time and wrap them around their torso. If lifting the legs is too much for either partner, leave them on the ground. What matters more is that the receiver’s shoulders are higher than their hips (opposite of the Apex variation above).

4. Apex position takes 2: This position puts a lot of strain on the giver and receiver. It takes some muscle, confidence, and flexibility, but once you get it, you’ve got it.

If high-flying sex positions are your jam, look no further than 10 Sex Swing Positions you’ll crave. Or, stay down to Earth and take advantage of what you have lying around the house. Our guide to How to Have Sex on the Furniture has you covered on tips, tricks, and positions.

First Timers Turned Life-timers

If this is your first venture into A-spot territory, you couldn’t find a better position than the Apex sex position. It’s up to you which version to try; both are satisfyingly adventurous.

Whether you’re looking to explore deeper sensations, greater intimacy, or searching for a wild twist on classic penetration, the Apex position is worth climbing into.

So grab a few pillows, or a stool, and get to work. Your peak pleasure awaits.