Butterfly Sex Position Overview

Looking for a sexy twist on classic pleasure that gives soaring orgasms? Look no further than the butterfly sex position.

Equal parts steamy and supportive, the butterfly sex position blends deep penetration with visual connection. This gender inclusive sex position sits on a sliding scale between romantic and dominating—a choose-your-own-adventure type of sex position.

Let’s break down how and why to spread your wings.

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What Is the Butterfly Sex Position?

Honestly, there’s a good chance you’ve already tried the butterfly sex position. You just didn’t know it had a name.

The butterfly sex position comes naturally, making it easy to get into and even easier to enjoy. It’s a variation of missionary—with an elevated twist.

In the butterfly sex position, the receiving partner lies supine on the edge of the bed (or table, or kitchen counter… feel free to get creative) with their legs extended upward and slightly apart. Imagine a 90-degree angle, with your feet in the air, and then create a V-shape with your legs.

The penetrating partner stands or kneels at the edge, allowing their partner’s feet/legs to rest on their shoulders. The giver should be able to easily enter the receiver and control the speed and intensity of thrusting.

The Butterfly position comes naturally to some couples. It’s a fabulous transition from Missionary to Side Saddle, or out of Plow into Lotus.

It’s both a journey and a destination. Sensual and flirty. Soft and wild. All wrapped up with intense eye contact, deep penetration, and G and A spot stimulation.

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How to Get Into the Butterfly Sex Position

Let’s see you spread those wings and fly. Here are a few tips for how to nail the butterfly sex position:

1. Find a sturdy surface with an edge – A bed, a table, a wide bench, a sofa, or a kitchen counter works best. The floor won’t cut it for this one, the receiver’s buttocks needs to be near an edge.

2. Flexibility is great, comfort is key – The receiving partner can rest their ankles on the giver’s shoulders or keep their feet lifted like the wings of a butterfly.

3. Standing or kneeling – Depending on the height of the receiver’s body on a sturdy surface, the giver can stand or kneel. If kneeling, feel free to throw a pillow under the giver’s knees for added comfort.

4. More adjustments for comfort – A pillow under the receiver’s hips add elevation, making the angle of penetration even more delicious while ensuring maximum comfort for our beautiful butterfly.

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What’s to Love About the Butterfly Sex Position

Still need some convincing to try the butterfly sex position? Buckle up, it’s time to break down the magic of this fluttering sex position:

Deep Penetration, Generous Angles

The upward tilt of the hips provides intense internal stimulation, making the G and A spot easy to target. The butterfly position is delightfully gender inclusive, adding the P spot to our list of potential targets.

Eye Contact and Selective Dominance

As I said before, the butterfly sex position sits on a spectrum.

At one end is tender intimacy, giving full sexual satisfaction with lingering eye contact and loving support from your partner.

At the other is sinful dominance. High-tempo, powerful thrusting from a partner who is fully in charge, with a sprinkle of bondage or restraints, depending on your mood.

The best part is, you don’t have to choose one over the other.

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Hands Free Fun

No matter where on the spectrum you landed, the giving partner will always have free rein of their hands. Clitoral stimulation, nipple play, and some backdoor exploration are ripe for the picking.

Meanwhile, the receiver has the same advantages. The butterfly sex position is perfect for toys, self-stimulation, or relaxing as pleasure washes over you.

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A Sex Position for All Bodies

No matter your anatomy, affinity for cozyier positions, or acrobatic abilities, the butterfly sex position can work for you and your partner.

Alter the leg angles, add pillows, and adjust thrusting speeds as your body needs.

Variations You Need to Try

Want some added spice for your butterfly position?

Try these tempting alternatives:

Reverse Butterfly: The receiver lies on their stomach, legs dangling off the edge. Imagine a supported wheelbarrow or doggy with your legs in the air.

Twisted Butterfly: The receiver lifts their legs and crosses them at the knee or ankle, resting them on one side of their partner’s head. Restrained Butterfly: Add ankle cuffs or wrist restraints to secure your butterfly to the ground.

Elevated Butterfly: Use a wedge or pillow under the receiver’s hips to change the angle and reposition the A spot. This will create deeper penetration and greater overall satisfaction, but start slowly if you’re new to A spot stimulation.

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Follow the Butterflies

The butterfly sex position is proof that some sex positions are one-size-fits-all. With a few tweaks, you can tailor the butterfly position to your comfort, gender, and stimulation needs.

With deep connection, penetrating thrusts, and intense pleasure, the butterfly sex position is a beautiful way to connect with your partner and explore new territory. So go ahead: lie back, lift those legs, and let the butterflies take flight.